Boundaries & Compassion

You know instinctively how to care for others, whether it be by sending a love note or text, taking care of things before people realize they need them, providing comforts for meetings, parties, family, etc… This is a beautiful gift, because knowing how to meet people where they are (mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally), can bring such joy and love into the world. However, when your emotional sensitivity gets overused it feels simply awful.

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You can feel taken advantage of or unappreciated. Often, instead of taking care of yourself (by setting healthy boundaries) you over-give until you’re empty, and that can feel exhausting. That state of exhaustion can create an urgent reaction—typically leading you to setting extreme boundaries, sometimes suddenly. You may feel or even say “I’m done! I’m never going to deal with this person / situation again.” Extreme reactive boundaries often pounce from a place where you feel cornered—spiritually drained, emotionally resentful, physically depleted, and mentally exhausted. Sound familiar?

Set compassionate boundaries ahead of any situation to ensure you are full enough to share your gifts and love. Stop running on fumes without a drop left to give. You fill up your tank before its empty, and you charge your phone before you go out for the day, correct? Eat a proper meal to maintain stamina when busy, yes? Well, the same practice needs to be applied to your soul and well-being. Taking care of YOU is not selfish or greedy. It’s a promise you make to yourself that says, “I’m going to preserve my energy and apply it properly, so that I can support both myself and my loved ones.”  It’s soul-nourishment, universe juice, divine chocolate.

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The truth is: only you know where those boundaries are. You know instinctively that moment when a personal soul boundary is crossed or violated. Even if it’s a boundary you’ve never consciously spoken, the moment it’s crossed, you can feel it in your bones. It’s like cloud-cover starts rolling across the warm, sunny rays of your best intentions.

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Those soul-boundaries are sacred ground; instinctive. Their service and purpose is to honor your inner knowing and your own intuition—to keep you balanced and free of dis-ease. When you can honor those sacred promises within yourself, your whole world will shift. When you can speak these truths in a non-accusatory tone without guilt, coming from a place of freedom and kindness, you will find those around you will rise up to meet your new level of self-love and universal compassion. And if they don’t? Remember, it’s not your job to fix anyone or more importantly, enable. Your job is to love and support in a balanced and healthy way; to exchange energy, in equal communion, with the people and situations that are a part of your journey. How can someone honor and respect you, when you forget to honor and respect yourself?

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As you go through this world, my hope is that you end up learning both the power of boundaries, and compassion. Activating these two tools will set you up for healthy relationships, and huge success: living a life you love. And living a life you love—born of Love, in Love—is the greatest gift you can gift to yourself, your loved ones, your community, and your Divinity.

Amplify your energetic world to support Your True Heart's Desire. Join Athena's Magical Secrets to deepen your sacred boundaries, spiritual practices, and rituals—to keep your energy focused and working for you.

 This program is designed for each woman to be and bring her best. The Support of the Athena Sisterhood is one where you are unconditionally seen, heard and valued.  It serves as your foundation for your continued elevation in how you live your life. You are supported as you support others towards empowerment and grace. All that is required is to show up fully you, accountable for your powerful light and accessible to your expansive compassion. 

Love and Light, 

Brenda

 

 

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